You want results. You’re passionate about meditation and life. Spacious involvement in the world’s complexity appeals more than spending your life in a cave.1
Emotions are important for you. You’d like to embrace the full spectrum of your embodied experience, with spacious presence, passion, and ease.
You care more about finding new ways of being than in realizing “no-self.” You want meditation to enhance your relationships, not distance you from others.
“Fit” matters when looking for a Vajrayana meditation coach, because the learning process is highly personalized. Personality and relationship are important; they are aspects of the path. Style and approach differ from one coach to another. With me, you learn through playful exploration and occasional challenges.
I care more about how methhods work in your practice than in their traditional metaphysical frameworks. I approach all methods in terms of their intended effects and results—that is, what they were designed to do, how they’re supposed to work, and what happens when you engage with them. We explore your practice in detail, and fine-tune according to results. We may also look at how your life impacts your meditation. What are the patterns of interaction that limit your freedom, self-expression, and presence? How might meditating with your emotions transform your day-to-day experience?
I take a metasystematic approach. That means I will help you figure out what teachings and practices are appropriate for your circumstances, rather than promoting one method for everyone. Usually, our practice discussions are exploratory. I ask a lot of questions. I might ask you to expand in some detail or to experiment with different language and frameworks.
I will help you establish a life-affirming Vajrayana practice. I’ve coached many clients in the transition from a Sutric style of meditation, meaning concentrated focus with a worldview that advocates detachment. This is not always easy. It can be frustratingly elusive, particularly if you are quite driven and perfectionist. However, it will be transformative. It may alter your way of being in ways you never imagined. Vajrayana trains powerful, kind, responsible leaders; people who are inspiring and inspired to do cool stuff in the world.
I can also help with a book study curriculum if you’re interested.
If you are looking for a coach and think we might be a good fit, ask me for a consultation. Tell me about your meditation experience and why you want coaching.
Before you become a client, we’ll have a conversation to discuss whether we’re a good fit for each other. That gives you the opportunity to reflect, and usually gives us a lot to explore. When we meet, I’ll ask you to talk about your practice so I get a sense of how it fits in your life, and what’s working or not for you. I might ask you to go into more detail on something you say, or we might take a deep dive on an aspect of your practice that seems important.
I always reply to consultation requests within two days… so if you don’t hear from me, something’s gone wrong! Check your spam box for my email and get back to me if there’s a problem.
I meet with some clients regularly, once or twice a month. Others like to check in every now and then, on an ad hoc basis. Some arrange daily sessions, when they are on retreat, for example.
I charge $150 per hour for an individual coaching session and $180 per hour for a group of two or three.