Personal Coaching

You’re passionate about meditation and you want results. Emotions are important for you: spacious involvement in life’s complexity appeals more than spending your life in a cave.1 You’d like to embrace the full spectrum of your embodied experience, with spacious presence, passion, and ease. You care more about finding new ways of being than in realizing “no-self.” You want meditation to enhance your relationships, not distance you from others.

Vajrayana practice should increase your sense of aliveness, your passionate enjoyment of life. It can also prepare you to handle difficult conversations with confidence, clarity, and kindness. It is deeply transformative, leading to tangible outcomes in your world. It results in fullness of being: creative, playful, powerful impact at home, in work, and on society. This kind of change takes time and commitment: it takes a willingness to explore different perspectives, to experiment with unfamiliar ways of being.

Fit

“Fit” matters when looking for a Vajrayana meditation and life coach, because the learning process is highly personalized. Personality and relationship are important here; they are aspects of the path. Style and approach differ from one coach to another. With me, you learn through playful exploration and occasional challenges.

You care more about how practices work than their traditional metaphysical frameworks. In our coaching sessions, we will approach all methods in terms of their intended effects—that is, what they were designed to do and what happens when you engage with them. You will explore the details of your meditation practice, and fine-tune according to results.

We will also look at how your life and meditation interact. What do you want to change? What are the patterns of interaction that limit your freedom, self-expression, and presence? How might meditating with your emotions transform your day-to-day experience?

It’s likely that you prefer to take a metasystematic approach towards your practice. That means you don’t expect to work inside a single, universal system, and that you want help to discover what teachings and practices are appropriate for your circumstances. Usually, our practice discussions are exploratory. You like asking questions and receiving them. You enjoy experimenting with different and new language regarding your practice, or engaging with multiple frameworks.

Connect

Vajrayana trains powerful, kind, responsible leaders; people who are inspiring and inspired to do cool stuff in the world. If that moves you, ask me for a conversation. Tell me about your meditation experience and why you want coaching.

My clients are CEOs, co-founders, AI researchers, engineers, professors, musicians, and coaches. Many have backgrounds in STEM.

Before you become a client, we’ll have a conversation to discuss whether we’re a good fit for each other. That gives you the opportunity to reflect, and usually gives us plenty to explore. When we meet, I’ll ask you to talk about your meditation so I get a sense of how it fits in your life, and what’s working or not for you. I might ask you to go into more detail on something you say, or we might take a deep dive on an aspect of your practice or life that seems important.

If you choose to consult with me, I will help you establish a life-affirming Vajrayana practice. I’ve coached many clients to transition from a Sutric style of meditation—from concentrated focus with a worldview that advocates detachment—towards opening awareness. This is not always easy, however, it is likely to be transformative. You may find new ways to be that you could not have imagined.

I’m interested in working at the intersection of Vajrayana practice and psychological stage development. We may move between these two frames of reference in our conversations.

I can also help with a book study curriculum and retreat planning.

In 2024 I’m leaning towards teaching on small, in-person, group retreats in place of delivering online courses for larger numbers. If you’d like to organize a Vajrayana group retreat ask me for a conversation and we can talk about your desired content and schedule. This model has worked well for introductions to Tantric practices such as yidam, relational methods, chöd, Dzogchen sitting, and tsa lung (moving sensation/energy) practices.

Practical stuff

I always reply to coaching requests within two days… so if you don’t hear from me, something’s gone wrong! Check your spam box for my email and get back to me if there’s a problem.

  1. 1.Although, caves are full of cool stuff, and you’d probably enjoy that too.